You may have read my earlier post about my personal positivity project. I set out to change my thinking by changing my words. No whining, complaining, or self-bashing for 24 hours.
And you know what – it’s really freaking hard, and that’s not a complaint, it’s a statement.
I tried setting reminders in my phone, and reflecting before speaking – but it’s still really hard. It’s hard in strange ways too – particularly in supporting friends. It’s hard to listen to someone complain and feel like you’re responding empathetically without ultimately saying, “You’re right – that does suck.”
In responding to friends, I tend to try to get them to look on the positive side, but sometimes that’s not being a good friend. I think. Sometimes, you just have to let them complain and support them in what they’re saying.
But does that negativity infect me?
I’m starting to think that it does. I’m not saying I don’t want to support my friends, or hear about their challenges, but does everything have to be a complaint? Is everything an issue? Am I the issue?
My own personal positivity project was originally thought up to change my own words – and I intend to continue with it until I really reach 24 hours without complaints. It’s also made me aware of how others speak around me, though. The environment you’re in, and the people you surround yourself with, the people you invest in – all of it influences your wellbeing.
It’s something to think about.
As for my 24 hours of positivity, I highly encourage each of you to try it. It’s harder than you think.